I think you’re just trying too hard to fit people into certain categories. The thing is though, these categories don’t actually exist in nature. They’re cultural constructs.
In other words, our culture defines masculinity a certain way, and femininity.
I can well imagine totally different cultures where the appendage between your legs doesn’t play into the way you identify yourself.
Our culture has a very strong separation between man and woman. If that concept didn’t exist, I bet there would be no transgender people or people who are explicitly gay, because there would be no “gender” to identify yourself as. You’d just be human.
Anyway, I remember reading something about this. Apparently there’s a certain stage in pregnancy, where the foetus is differentiated into (biologically) male or female. Of course, the difference is more than just a penis or a vagina, it also affects brain chemistry etc. Now, during this stage, something sometimes goes wrong: the penis might not start growing out even though the foetus has begun differentiating towards a male body. It’s the same reason why there are hermaphrodites.
Which brings me to another point: how would you define hermaphrodites? Are they just deluding themselves into thinking they’re either male or female? Do you consider them to be definitely both and nothing else?
If not, what’s the difference with someone in the exact same situation, except their penis didn’t develop, or their vagina didn’t?
I just don’t understand why people find it necessary to impose their own perspective on someone else’s identity. If someone feels like a man, who are you to say they aren’t?
I also don’t see why you need more convincing than the fact that every single person we’re talking about telling us that it’s the way it is.
Do you really need advanced medical scans and scientific evidence for something these people can you tell you themselves?
I honestly find it grossly insulting to imply that you have a clearer understanding of how someone else’s brain works and what their emotional lives are like, than the person in question themselves.
-Every single gay person on earth: “I was born this way”
-you people: “I’m not convinced.”
-Every single transgender person on earth: “I am a man/woman even though I have a vagina/penis/both!”
-you people: “I’m not convinced.”
that’s just arrogance