I know these feelings too. I think itâs great you guys can talk about this stuff, and itâs important that you are able to as well. What I am going to suggest though, is donât talk to her about it every time you start to feel that way. Iâd try to keep the minor (âtooâ as an example) things to yourself, because you will wear her out fast, even if she understands you. Iâve been in a very similar boat as you, and I can tell you a quick way to deal with this problem.
First off, realize that if you really love this girl, it will be worth the risk of looking like a fool if things go wrong.
Second: feign ignorance of âsuspicious circumstancesâ like this. Even if you are sure she is avoiding you or making excuses or whatever the flavor of the day might be with your nay-saying brain, pretend like it didnât happen and ignore these events on purpose. You will soon realize that there actually isnât anything wrong at all, and presto: confidence will soon follow.
While I agree to an extent, âget your shit in controlâ isnât necessarily helpful. 
Itâs kind of like replying to âI donât know how to do thisâ with âtry harderâ.
With this I have to disagree completely. Any relationship where someone has no insecurities whatsoever seems to me that the other person is either viewed as disposable, or property.
Perhaps you meant âshowing doubt in yourself is the worstâ in which case I can see your point, though I still think there are other things worse for a relationship.
While I am not actually bolteh, I canât give advice more specific than âget your shit in controlâ. Iâm not saying âtry harderâ, Iâm saying âstop denying yourself of your true happiness and discover, and flaunt, your true value in the world to the one you want to share it withâ.
seriously. everyone with an idea thinks theyâre special and unlovable until they tell someone about it to their face
Everyone loves me, this I know.
For my ego tells me so.
haha you got that right x)
Itâs easier said than done to âget your shit in controlâ. Normally I simply grab control by blocking emotional attachment to certain things or people (apathy), but in these situations itâs trickier to get in control.
But I guess over time itâll come. The panic-fits these days are less frequent and far less intense than a month or so ago, so I guess something is changing.
Also, about that Chinese-Egypt thingy⌠Vikings did the exact same thing in the Hagia Sophia many moons ago (carved âAlvdan was hereâ in a balcony stone), and today itâs considered a valuable piece of history.
In a thousand years or so, people will look upon these Chinese carvings and go âwhoa!â.
Recently, Iâve been terrified by the idea that Iâll die having achieved nothing lasting with my life, and leaving behind nothing to remember me by.
This is why people start drinking, right?
Why do you feel this? Why do you think you are unworthy or unlovable? StAHP!
The Unofficial Official Depressing Chat Thread
Lighten up for fuckâs sake. Itâs not Christmas yet.
iâm going to start rebuilding my social life (and my life in general, really) soon, non-depressing enough?
reading your stories folkâŚtheyâre quite interesting
on a side noteâŚwatch this itâs just horrible in any way a person can imagine
there is no point in leaving something behind, the only purpose of life is to have a good time and enjoy the ride
The only thing you could leave behind is children, but unless we colonize another planet soon there wonât be enough resources for everyone, but there is always enough resources for pain and suffering.
anything you leave behind will disappear after a while anyway, nothing lasts forever
I design buildings. Some of them will be around for quite a while. I helped design one that will be around for years without ever being finished! (it will never be finished, the owner went bankrupt and no one wants to buy it in its current state).
I used to love running around in abandoned unfinished buildings in Ukraine. Just like playing a post apocalyptic FPS RPG.
I really would love to go explore abandoned buildings, but I donât think any exist in Sweden.
Weâve never really had any development large enough to warrant any abandoning, and on top of that weâre in the midst of a severe lack of homes, so right now everything old is being refurbished and made into flats.
I should take a trip to some post-Soviet country at some point, theyâre supposedly chock-full of them.
Or Detroit. Detroit would be really interesting, though far more expensive.
and far more likely to be shot or killed
Thereâs a really cool abandoned train station, I think, in Detroit. I believe itâs been locked up though.
Iâm pretty sure you could visit Chernobyl, too. I understand that there are even people living in PripyatâŚ
There are a few abandoned factories in Montreal but they are downtown, in the ghetto, not in the nice clean suburban neighborhood where I currently reside.