I dont know what all the fuss is about. Steam is only the delivery system. It is not the game itself.
It is also not what makes you unable to sell the games. The agreements that you click / agree to when installing the game is what makes you unable to sell the games. Of which by the way, is simply stating that what you own is a LICENSE to play the game. This is the same thing that you agree to when you install any other game and any other software program. STeam isnt what keeps you from giving your games away, the agreement is. BTW… how exactly are you going to give away your games if you refuse to use steam as the delivery platform??? Also, steam is what keeps your games patched and up to date. And by the way, for that argument… it IS possible to sell your steam account with your games on it, however if valve ever finds out, the account would be disabled. But then what would you care at that point… you already sold it to the sucker that thought he could get the games at a discount.
And you say you want to install the game and then search for the patches yourself and install them yourself. To be honest, why do all of that manually when that is exactly what steam was designed to do? ok ok ok ok… You want to do it just because. Ok fine. Good luck finding the game, finding the correct patches, the latest and greatest updates, and making them all work on your computer, and playing your game that is not attached to an account and at any time could be highjacked and yet you have no proof to get it back.
ftl imho.