Marriage

#1

We touched on this in the Ask a Homosexual thread, I think it’s an interesting topic that deserves its own thread so we don’t hijack that thread.

So, what are your views on the subject?

#2

Monogamy is so weird.

#3

So… umm. Are we expressing our views on marriage?

I think it’s cool and all.

#4

Well, as a Christian I believe it’s best to wait for sex until marriage. It also seems like a good thing to do whilst bored, I guess. Marriage I mean; not sex. :3

#5

I hope no one minds if I shamelessly steal some quotes to get the conversation started…

And no, I do not intend for this to be a religion vs atheism thread, although I’d be stupid to think that that isn’t a factor in this topic. Let’s just try not to focus exclusively on the religious aspect, shall we? :slight_smile:

#6

To me, marriage was a religious thing at one time…in some arenas. Marriage is not, itself, is not a religious thing, however. It can be religious, but it doesn’t have to be. It can be purely secular.

#7

I agree. I don’t think that marriage per se is that important, but I think it represents a committment that is important.

#8

Marriage is handy if you want to have kids.

I can’t picture myself having time or patience for any of that for at least 30 years.

#9

Marriage is a pretty “natural” thing in human nature, I understand Marriage as a Bonding between two and spending their life together with love and respect

#10

You can do that without marriage. Marriage simply codifies it. In religious marriage, you go before God (or whatever deity you happen to worship) to codify it. In legal marriage, you go before the government and get a contract which entitles you to certain privileges, rights and responsibilities as recognized by the government.

There is no need to get married to spend your life together with the person you love and respect.

#11

Aside from government recognition and all that, I don’t think marriage actually means anything. A couple could seem just like they were married even if that’s the last thing they EVER want to do.

As for the whole ‘no sex before marriage’ thing, that doesn’t even make sense.

#12

So I should get married every time i’m bored ? :frowning:

#13

Are you just playing along or did you take me seriously?

#14

I would rather be with someone because I love them not because I feel obligated to.

And I’m sure everyone feels the same way.

#15

Marriage is just like any other contract you sign. It binds you, it forces you to live by its rules and breaking it will most rape your cache of moneys.

I don’t intend to get married, because it has nothing to do with love.

#16

Playing along

#17

If my history is correct, marriage originally was a contract between a man and a father who wanted to get rid of his daughter. The man would buy the daughter from him. Sometimes arrangements between families were made where the fathers of two families agreed to marry their children to one another in order to create a bond beneficial to both of them. Especially wealthy and politically interested families did so.
Marriage condemned the girl to be obedient and sexually submissive towards her husband, while the husband would grant her a roof over her head, a regular income or at least something to eat every day and protection from other men. The man, however, was not obliged to stay true (sexually) to his wife. In later times (Renaissance comes to mind) both husband and wife (at least in wealthy families) were allowed to have sex outside of marriage. Even love was allowed, as long as the marriage was not damaged.

Marriage is also an agreement to start a family together and bring up kids in a secure environment with two parents, the mother being the one who cares about them most of the time, and the father being the one who plays the authority figure in questions of serious punishment.

Then came all the theatre plays and love novels from the Elizabethan age up till the 19th century, and more and more marriages were made out of love instead of mutual benefit. As biology shows, the time of being “infatuated” can last as long as 2-3 years, then the production of the necessary hormones or whatever comes to a halt, and either serotonine or dopamine take over, if the relationship still has rewarding experiences to offer at all.

So a lot of love marriages ended badly. And still do so today. Because marriage was ever intended for love. To be continued…

#18

So, baby, what’s your sign? eyebrow waggle

ducks the impending slap

#19

Research? You mean I’d have to do some research? :fffuuu:

If I ever got married, I’d want one of these two guys officiating:

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