Girl Advise

#781

Alright, so I’m 19 and dating a 21-year-old nymphomaniac. Needless to say, I’m really not experienced at all with anything to do with women. She’s my first girlfriend, and before her I haven’t even kissed anyone because of my own personal lack of confidence and paranoia that no one of the opposite sex liked me.

Anyway, I’m really worried I might lose her due to my inexperience. She knows I’m a virgin and am really inexperienced. But she’s a nymphomaniac, she wants sex. It’s clear that she truly loves me, as I do love her, but I fear that, with all the people chasing after her, both men and women (she’s bi), I might lose her to someone more experienced.

We spend lots of time cuddled up in bed, taking walks, seeing movies, getting dinner, etc. Intimate alone time is precious to us. She likes to be in my arms for the entire night. But I just simply can’t provide in bed, not yet, not when I can’t even kiss her properly. My inexperience is killer here.

What should I do? Should I tell her I’m worried I might lose her? Should I “practice” on other people to make it better? Should I ask her to teach me?

#782

I think you should do it when it’s the right time. The first time is horrible, always. The second time is always 100% better. So I’d do it as soon as possible to get it over with. Then it’ll get better.

#783

When you are ready then you are ready. Going beyond your comfort zone before you are ready is not a good thing, it is a bad thing. Do not go beyond what you are ready for simply cuz you dont want to loose her. Any relationship built on giving more than you are comfortable with is going to be a relationship that is built on desperation. A relationship built on any level of desperation will mess you up big time in the long run and you will start a dating cycle that will be uber difficult to change.

Either she will accept what you are offering, or she is not for you. If she can be tempted away, then you never had her to begin with.

#784

I guess that’s true, Catz. I just want to kiss her properly, and I know I suck at it. That’s all I want. Last night, she even looked me in the eyes with this coy expression and said “You are the still the worst kisser I met. We’ll have to work on that. But I still love you.”

But I just worry that sooner or later she’ll just give up on me.

#785

Wait, it’s your first girlfriend, right? Then you shouldn’t worry about it too much. The first relationship you have is almost never the most succesful, and is almost doomed to fail sooner or later. Unless forced by a third party. Sure, it sucks balls to get dumped, but just don’t worry about it too much: It’s your first girlfriend.

#786

If you supposedly suck at kissing, then tell her to teach you. Practice sessions are fun.

#787

Not all women who want sex are nymphomaniacs. If she were, she would already be screwing around with other guys 'n gals. Nymphomaniacs are people who cannot stand to waste a day without having several orgasms. So either she would be masturbating perfuously several times a day, or she’d already be gone.

I was in exactly the same situation with my ex fiancé at the beginning of our relationship. Word of advice from me: Don’t let yourself be pressed into doing something with her that you are afraid of to try. At least not without telling her that you are. I made a couple of major mistakes trying to live up to her fantasies, which were in fact only subconscious urges to retraumatize herself in order to overcome the pain from her deeply buried childhood memories of molestation and abuse.

Oh, and I was told to be a wonderful kisser, so maybe I could give you a tip: Do it slowly, tenderly, and savour every moment of it. Show her how much you enjoy it. Don’t try to massage her throat with your tongue - only use the tip to tease hers and her lips now and then. A series of short and tender kisses is superior to one long and deep and breathtaking kiss.
Also: Mouth hygiene FTW! Very important.

At least that’s what made my ex love kissing me so much. Could work for you, too.

#788

Practice with an ice cream cone.

#789

Unless you are kissing an inexperienced kisser and/or yourself being inexperienced.

#790

I didn’t think kissing was that hard? I never felt like I was inexperienced or anything.

#791

You like giving advice don’t you? You must be a really nice mom :stuck_out_tongue:

@wingedone: Not sure this is good advice but I think it would be a good idea not to “fall in love” with anyone you think you might lose.

#792

Ok so girl I like is in Georgia visiting family but still manages to text me every 5 minutes good sign of her liking me. >.>

#793

your mom caught your furry sketches? and she was cool with it?

JK :wink:

@Winged One

I’ve only had one experience with a girl that i couldn’t “satisfy”. I had had sex before, but i was still very inexperienced, i made the mistake of looking into things too much. Our relationship was ruined becuase I could never live up to a previous boyfriend she had, at least thats what i thought at the time. Later on, i realized it was my own mental bullshit, that hindered my performance in bed. I sadly can’t help you with the kissing thing though, all i can say is that for both kissing and oral sex, you have to tease and build up suspense, don’t go right for the kill.

#794

That’s less useful for kissing practice, actually… :wink:
Were you really thinking about kissing when you gave that advice?

That’s a wonderful advice. Only that it doesn’t work because you cannot control whether you fall in love or not. So, basically, this advice sucks.

#795

I’m top kisser in my state ([COLOR=‘DimGray’]in the opinion of most girls I kiss which is a lot). :stuck_out_tongue: I am very versatile when it comes to kissing and can switch to suit the moment.

#796

Well, aren’t you terrific.

#797

Hey, I earned those bragging rights. Took me a long time to get it right, but it was a fun process. You never stop learning how to kiss.

#798

Once one has perfected avoiding dental collision, kissing is a cinch.

#799

Erm, I’ve met a few girls that rather liked that whether it be biting in the kiss or just clicking. :fffuuu:

#800

haha! dental collision! Not sure if that ever happened to me but yeah, it is a concern.

Guys… how do YOU like to be kissed?

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