Girl Advise

#801

I’ve been dating this girl for a little over a month now and it has been the happiest time of my life. She’s smart, beautiful and always knows how to make me laugh and smile. Just a few nights ago she told me that she still had feelings for other guys, and didn’t think that was fair to me. She didn’t think she was ready for a relationship again, and said that she wanted to break it off. The night before she had just told me how happy she was that we were together, and how she had never felt this way for anyone else before.

It doesn’t bother me that she still has feelings for other people at all, I already knew she did going into this. It’s been 3 days and it feels like each of my limbs have been cut off, lit on fire, and then re-attached without her around. I desperately want her back, and she says she still cares about me. Advice anyone?

#802

Too easy…
Date her non-exclusively. You can date other girls, she can date other men. If she agrees… then go for it. But also be sure you date other girls. It isn’t gonna work to your advantage if you don’t ‘enjoy’ the benefits of dating non-exclusively.

#803

The problem is she doesn’t do the whole “non-exclusive” thing (and neither do I for that matter). She called us off completely, and doesn’t want to be together at all anymore. All this after she had told me how happy she was with me.

#804

I feel your pain, bro.

#805

She says she is uber happy with you but then breaks up with you. She also doesnt want to do the non exclusive thing. Wow does THAT sound familiar. I played this game 3 times with the same guy before I realized I was just his killing time girlfriend. Basically, she really likes you but there is either someone else she is interested in more or she is looking to see if she can do better. (grass is greener syndrome)

I am sorry. My best advise is to lick your wounds, but you are best to leave her to her indecisiveness and move on.

#806

wut

i have never ever ever had my teeth collide with someone else’s

edit: woah, missed this page

But yeah, don’t make the same mistake as me, you’re either together or you aren’t, no in between. Unless it’s something physical, which is clearly not the case.

#807

then you’ve never been in love so impatiently enough :frowning:

#808

Me neither. Or some of you guis have kissed a guy with bracelets.

#809

Theres a difference between kissing someone, and eating their face :slight_smile:

example,

Swampfox goes in for the kill :mean:

Victims distraught face : :fffuuu:
(seewhtididthar?)

Where as with the rest of us : :awesome: is the reply.

#810

Unless it’s clearly developing into something but you want to wait to make it official.

#811

Yeah but he was already in a relationship. Once you’re there, someone either ends it or you stay together.

#812

Nor make my mistake :confused:

#813

I think nobody has bothered to answer this question directly yet, so I am gonna go for it. My answer is:

Frequently. And not exclusively on the lips - or the face, for that matter. :slight_smile:

#814

I approve of Danson’s post.

#815

I think it’s the sweetest thing to be kissed on the arm, wrist, hand, and otherwise while holding your loved one.

My girlfriend feels the same way, and loves when I kiss her neck, shoulders, back, and arm.

#816

So yeah I’ve got pretty big mood changes. I’m either really really happy, and I’ll speak a lot and very fast, or I’ll be depressed as fuck. And I’ve always retained myself from having a girlfriend because of that. I wouldn’t want to, like, sadden her too because I’m in a down and want to be alone.

Am I making the good choice or not?

Edit: Whoa, the way I put it makes me sound like totally socially inept. Which I’m not.

#817

passionately

#818

Absolutely not. Perhaps a girl is what you need in your life.

Besides, if you find someone who loves you, they’ll understand. My girlfriend has problems of her own, so I know enough to give her space and alone time when she needs it.

But whatever you do, if you find someone, don’t hide this from them. Tell them. Opening up to them may bring you closer together in the end.

By the way, if you really have problems with depression, you should see a doctor.

#819

^ bscly.

Imonfire you never know if you find a girl that fits you perfectly in all the right spots, both emotionally and physically. You may just find someone that can counter your ups and downs nicely. :slight_smile:

#820

Yeah I guess. It’s just that I absolutely hate doing other people harm, it’s almost a phobia. And yeah I went to see a doctor, and he just thought it wasn’t anything serious because there’s nothing that could cause these mood changes.

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