tru dat niggz!
For some reason, some people are attracted to other people that seem to have no interest in them.
I guess it kinda comes down to what Catz said earlier, girls aren’t interested in those guys that make it obvious that they want to get into their panties (apart from the whores).
Thanks for the advice, Catz and Note-anator, it’s much appreciated.
Danson, we seem to be in a similar mental situation, though with some key differences. I hope you get through it.
I lol’d damn hard
I’m crying and laughing at the same time.
This is among the best answers I have seen on the Internet.
I was watching a movie recently and a comment was made that I had to actually stop it, back it up and play it again for Rodney my oldest (of whom is having control issues with his baby’s mommy). I don’t know if he really absorbed it like I was hoping, but it said:
Don’t let ANYone convince you that you don’t deserve what you want in your life.
It was said with such gusto and conviction. But it is true. As humans, we really do need to be careful what behaviors, comments or beliefs we allow into our world. We need to reject things and comments that are not good for us and instead embrace good thoughts and behaviors.
“The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart…”
^ This
Dr. House (of the TV show) also said something along those lines that impressed me and guided me on many of my decisions. It was more or less like “It has nothing to do with what you deserve. It’s what you want.”
It made me think a lot. Does deserving or not stops a really bad person from doing something? Of course not, they don’t give a shit about deservedness. So, why should you? You are not a murdered, a torturer, a rapist, a thief… And these will do anything to make themselves happy without a second thought.
Just make sure you don’t harm other people. For everything else, just go for it.
As far as I’m concerned, deserving something doesn’t even come into it. You do what you do because that’s what you want to do or because you think it’s the right thing to do.
You should always put your own happiness first, as long as it doesn’t interfere in other people’s well-being too much.
After all, if you’re not happy, you’re not going to be able to do much good to others.
Easier said than done, of course.
Most people are too concerned about what people deserve or about rights and duties to think about what really matters.
well, being a social creature, there is the standard fair as to being concerned with others as was just said. A balance is best I think, in that we do need others in our life. However, Burbinator is bang on here - We are of no use to others if we do not maintain ourselves. That said, if we swing it right, we can have the WIn WIn - maintain our own needs, and help meet the needs of those around us - Win Win… it works well when it can be had.
We are an interesting creature - sometimes we are so damn hard on ourselves - we are usually willing to extend some grace toward others, but then we will sometimes dump on our selves - Why do we do this?
I´m nervous for the proposal. Any tips or advise?
I seem to be a bit thick Mr.shadow - What proposal? As in, you are thinking of proposing? or?
Mariage proposal.
Have you planned how you wanna do it?
Well, I want to take her to the beach, and then when the sun goes down I`m gonna do it. I already have enough money for a ring.
EDIT: Maybe it should be like At Worlds End, with cap’n Barbosa marrying us.
A beach? NICE!
I like the treasure chest idea myself.
I think a combination of 1 and 2 are the best, considering I have barely enough money for the ring.
And yes, I said I was gonna wait 2 months but I’m impatience made flesh.
Edit*
That sounds wonderful.
I sincerely wish you the best with it.
Thanks. Now, can somebody give me tips on how to deal with being nervous?
Sure.
First ask yourself what you are nervous about? (and there are understandable reasons why a perosn would be in this situation)
Is it the hidden fear of what if she says no? The idea of it being a life long commitment? Etc. Some nervousness is understandable, as no intelligent person would go into this without having thought this through.
You are nervous because of a concern, or fear - nothing more - That is the first thing to know. Once you find the core of it, look at it from different angles. What I do when faced with something nerve taxing, is ask - “What is the worst that could possibly happen?” At first, this is uncomfortable, but then after a bit, the nervousness goes away. It is hte unknown we fear - little else.
For each fear, do not ask “what if” questions, ask “How would I solve this?” Do not let yourself get into endless loop questions - they do not help. Ask yourself solution questions. Once you have these answers, do not look back. You have a plan, and trust in that. If your mind want to run to the negitive, try and change this to what you will both gain when you are past the proposal.
Beyond this, pull a Zen/toist - be in the moment - Only that moment. Not the future, not the past -Enjoy the experience.
Cheers
Wow, that actually helps me alot. Thanks for the advice.
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