Girl Advise

#941

I am not in love with her or anything, and I am not self confident enough to actually BELIEVE or DREAM about her fancying me. I just observed the signs she was giving me, and from my point of view they clearly stated: Come closer!

I was just wondering whether I could have misread them. It only occurred to me after our last conversation that she had been giving off pretty magnetic vibrations and signs of liking me. I mean - I have never met a girl that asked me to touch her on a sensitive area of her body (being carressed along the spine can be pretty enjoyable, as I know from first hand experience), just after having spent an hour or so talking to me.

She could be just a weirdo, though. Anyway, she told me she has a well equipped kitchen and likes good food, so next time I might suggest meeting for a cooking session, if she likes. If she doesn’t, whatever.

I am certainly not gonna die a little inside if it doesn’t work out. I have actually grown accustomed to the thought of being alone and lonely for the rest of my miserable life. So I am at a point that clearly resembles the time I last plunged into a relationship. Always when I stop looking for it.

Thanks for your concerns, ladies. Both of you! Catz for caring about me feeling happy, and Sassy for caring about me getting my heart’s little ass kicked. I will heed both your opinions when being near her next time.

#942

Even though she’d said that Danson looked gay
some still say her heart grew three sizes that day,
for Sassy knew well how enchanted males drool,
slowly jealous, possessive - exclusively fools.

Extraneous males are noth’ but a fright
when approaching your girl - your heart’s only delight.
Some soulless twisted creatures forgot
that some men seek love over raw honeypot.

#943

That was sweet. Thanks for writing it :slight_smile:

#944

Cooking is good.

And don’t sell yourself short.

Just be careful is all, but you are already doing that.

Cheers

#945

im in a situation

My friend has been dating this girl that we both like, they just broke up, and now I’d be interested in dating her, but im afraid that if i did, a couple things would happen. Im afraid that my friend would hate me for dating her, and/or he wouldn’t care, but then it would be awkward if we hung out because im dating his old girlfriend.

Im really good friends with her, and i like her a lot. But im pretty sure this would make things between me and my best friend awkward, or he would hate me for dating her.

any advice?

#946

Change your shirt?

#947

Give it time before you hook up with her, like, month or two. If you get the feeling that she is interested, ask your buddy if it’s okay, and make sure he’s okay with it.

Not a good move to be honest, but it happens.

#948

Two guys from my high school did that. As soon as the first one had dumped his girlfriend for another chick, his buddy took care of the dumped one.

I think it only worked because their creed was to “never let a girl stand between us”, and because the first guy had already a new girlfriend, so his old gf dating his best buddy didn’t concern him much.

#949

wish it was that easy for me, but seeing as im only 14, and i enter high school next year…

not that easy

#950

High school is hell about that stuff. Just don’t do it if you know what’s good for you.

#951

14 now and high school coming up? Shit really? I think I spent my first 5 months of high school at 13… [COLOR=‘DimGray’]I guess it’s no wonder both my tours 've been two years my elder…

#952

Who cares about relationships, anyway?

#953

Someone your age shouldn’t be going for a relationship. I avoided them all throughout high school (not always by choice, I’ll admit), but I’m much happier for it now that I’m in college. Too much drama and ridiculousness in high school.

#954

IN general, I agree.

#955

More of a rant, but why am I too much of a fucking pussy to do anything when I get attention from a girl :fffuuu:

#956

Just man up!

#957

Maybe you just too much want to be loved. I can tell you, it doesn’t get better with the years. So you better change your attitude, if you can.

Don’t want to end up like me, do you?

#958

I hear that over and over. That if you dont push through it, it never gets easier or better with age. One guy in particular that I worked with said “As a guy, if you dont learn how to push through the shy part and actually go for it, you could end up like me. 35 and married to someone you actually “settled” for cuz you never got around to learning how to go get what you want.”

It shocked me that he put it so bluntly. I know he loved his wife, but to make this kind of comment 6 months after getting married… wow.

#959

Why is he so desperate to get any woman? Why did he ‘settle’ for this woman, if he knew he wasn’t going to be happy with it?

Come on, this is ridiculous. If you have a nice girl, then that’s good for you. But there’s no obligation to get a relationship…

Maybe he was pushed by his relatives or friends to do this…
In that case it would have been more courageous of him to accept that he doesn’t have a relationship. To deal with it and only attempt to start one if he really liked the woman, not because he has to have a relationship.

#960

fucking hell i really do need to man up

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