Girl Advise

you shalt be funney, smart and express your own opinion instead of stickin head up her butt. because to nice is boring. jus talk wit her liek with a friend but try to bring a littel sex in. suun she yours

Good god, that’s an awful post for any number of reasons Stibe…

Just go for it, embarass yourself, wallow in pity, acknowledge that you will never find anyone ever and will die alone, soaked in your own urine in a cold, damp house surround by printouts of Blak Mesa forums which represnt the golden age of your life before it all went o so wrong.

Alternatively you could grow a pair… This isn’t the OC.

sure looks that way

good god I need to meet some people, I’m craving for a kiss

herp a derp share your life on the internet

You’re not gonna get it if you do it for the kiss, and not for the person.

Depends on the setting, really. And I’m not the kind of guy to go for the action and ignore the person anyway. In fact, I’m not the kind of person to go for anything at all :fffuuu:

^ Don’t worry, honey, I will :3

I tried so hard without success to find someone that looked just a little like me so I could make sure I was on the right track…

… and now two guys pop out of nowhere like magic describing my life as if it were theirs :slight_smile:

Someone is trying to play a trick on me. That must be it.

I call bullshit :3

Nah, nevermind, honey, I won’t call you honey again… :stuck_out_tongue:

I’m thinking this kinda thing isn’t all too uncommon. Kinda shy, kinda romantic type falls in love, loses love, takes a while to find it again.

Well you didn’t expect anybody to change, which is good, but you did say things went smooth as a whistle once your prince conformed. I don’t feel like that creates the right message.

Happens every day, while kinda extroverted, kinda douchebaggy, egocentric type sexually exploits girl after girl after girl after girl… without ever taking a break. Seems just so damn fair, doesn’t it?

Surely you must be joking…

I am joking, and don’t call me shirley.

I was more thinking about the nerd type that has problems about interacting with people, talking to girls, then falls in love, loses love… you know the drill.

Yeah, yeah, shitty people exist. Complaining about it won’t change that and won’t prove that this concept is wrong. If you don’t like that then I advice you to grow courage and change that situation, at least for yourself. You owe that to yourself. Even if other good people don’t try changing the situation, at least do your part.

I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of people saying that I should be different than I am. Sometimes just disapproving me with their eyes over something I’ve just done, sometimes asking “when are you gonna stop being so distracted?”, sometimes just thinking that I’m gonna fail. Well, I have news for you: I’m not gonna fail, I won’t let that happen.

Yeah. No point in worrying what other people do, just think for yourself.

And I’m not really a nerd though :frowning:

Maybe I should think about it like this: I’ve had a relationship with 100% of the girls I’ve been in love with :awesome:

Well, I guess I didn’t need to find another nerd like me to know if I was on the right track on this subject, then. I thought my difficulty on interacting with people was a nerdy problem, at least now I know I was wrong. Hey, actually, this makes me feel a lot better :slight_smile:

You had to make me feel bad, didn’t you :fffuuu:

Just kidding. Think that at least you had a relationship instead of hiding behind idealism and theories.

You know, when I was younger, people always told me “Don’t worry about getting a girlfriend, it will come to you when it’s time, God will arrange you everything, etc, etc” and I just believed it. Most people listen to a theory like that just to make them feel more relaxed. Even who says it doesn’t really believe it when the time comes. The problem is I stick to theories.

Not a flame-bait, but it’s interesting to see how people have lots of theories that they think they believe while they actually don’t. It’s not hypocrisy, just ignorance. No offense intended.

^ :stuck_out_tongue:

As far as I’m concerned, any theory concerning “finding love” is bullshit. If you meet someone interesting, explore it. If that person turns out to be more than just interesting, pursue it. If it works out, good; if it doesn’t, get over it and meet new people.

I’m necro’ing this thread because I’ve run into girl trouble big time.

Yall might remember I’ve been dating a borderline nymphomaniac. She’s into real kinky shit (BDSM, bondage, Master/slave). Now, she knew coming into the relationship I wasn’t really into all that, but that I’d give it a try to see how it went.

Now, a few weeks ago, when I last saw her, my insecurities/paranoia flared up and I asked if she loved me. She held me tight, said she didn’t want anyone else, that she loved me so much, and that she didn’t see us breaking up anytime soon, and even then we’d prob get back together within the hour. She told me everything was perfect and that I made her very happy and content. We ended up making out in the street.

A few days later, we had a discussion about sex, and by the end of the conversation she had it in her head we’d always be vanilla. The days after that convo, she seemed distant when we communicated. Quiet. I thought nothing of it. Then she had a conversation with a friend about life…and me. After this conversation, she changed her profile picture and a new dude started stalking her fb. I, again, thought nothing of it. Two days later, she called and said she couldn’t visit the next day because she would be breaking up with me and wouldn’t be able to drive back after that.

Besides the utter shock, since I had no inkling of anything wrong, I was also confused about why she broke up with me. For a week I talked to her and tried to gain some reason why. She said I was too insecure, dependent, timid, indecisive, and not dominant enough. But she always said she wanted to hear about my problems, and that they brought us closer. Certainly not something that would warrant such a 180 degree turn in affection in such a short time, since I was ALWAYS insecure.

Besides that, I had just finished battling my demons. When I got back from the last time I saw her, I decided I needed to fight my insecurity before I lost her. And I succeeded. I felt more secure, dominant, decisive, etc. And, in addition, I felt more receptive to her kinks. And yet she still didn’t want to get back together. She also agreed that she started to distance herself from me after our sex discussion, telling me that that was the ultimate catalyst. She was worried about the sex.

She also told me that she might be starting something with a new guy, the guy I saw stalking her fb. So I said “Good luck, I hope he loves you as much as I do, and if things don’t work out I’ll do all in my power to win you back.” I still loved her, but I decided to just try and move on. I wouldn’t act on what I felt, I’d just take life as it came. If an opening came, I’d take it. But I still felt like their wasn’t closure. She never saw me in person to breakup, after all. So I asked if I could see her so we could have a discussion if we were to ever keep a strong friendship, which she still wanted. But she answered she couldn’t see me or talk to me for the rest of the week.

Because Master said so. And he also doesn’t like me.

Then the realization hit. She left me to become this fucker’s sex slave. I felt pure unadulterated anger that she didn’t bother giving me a chance sex wise. She just moved on to someone after she assumed I couldn’t handle her. I am furious with her, so frustrated and pissed off. I won’t be contacting her again until she contacts me. But I still love her, and I still want her back.

How can I win her back without her even knowing it? How can I make her realize that what she did was really stupid and that she made a huge mistake?

I don’t want to hear “You want her back?” I know it’s weird. But right now I just want her.

You can’t. Get over it. Move on. It’s not worth it. It won’t work. It never does.

Buddy, thats some seriously fucked up shit. She’s not coming back. I really hate to be Bolteh here, but let her go. I kinda know what your going through, with the whole curbed for someone else, (time and again:fffuuu :slight_smile: but give yoursef a week, and you will realise that she is bad news.

And this is gonna make you really unhappy, but my honest advice to you is if she comes back, don’t go back to her. It will keep you safe from heartache and rivalry and probably teach her something, about life and about you. Once word gets around that you are in for a real, deep relationship (Not one that can have multiple boyfriends inbetween) the RIGHT girls will start showing up.

slowly.

oh, and I might aswell dump my story here too. My friend,(the one I like) just told me she has a thing for my other friend. :rolleyes:

Back to square zero for me.

Nothing wrong with having common sense, don’t hate yourself for it.

But there is something wrong with being a mac-loving asshole, You should hate yourself.

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