Well I decided to continue this discussion from the YLYL thread since it was “off topic”, and we had some interesting discussion going on.
I’ve friendzoned at least 3 girls throughout my teen years
I wish I were friendzoned. That would imply that I have female friends.
lol, ‘friendzone’ is bullshit. having feelings for another person who doesn’t reciprocate never works out, I’ve found it’s best to either date them or forget about them or those feelings. clinging onto their friendship while hoping for more is pathetic.
i say this because i was recently friendzoned by one of my best friends from high school who I drunkenly admitted my feelings for, and my plan is to tell them we need to either date or forget about being friends. oops!
I know dat feel, bro
friendzone=haven’t got past sniffing butt stage. high school ends at some point
How is it that all the arguments against the existence of the Friendzone have been reiterations of the definition of the word and the circumstances in which it occurs?
because they’ve all come from different people with their own different take on the matter
But it’s always the same take.
from people who arrived at such on their own. That’s the funny part about growing up and figuring your shit out on your own, your opinions might align with others!
Is it me, or does making this discussion into an own thread with the first post being bur’s
make it look like the thread was started by bur because he’s butthurt that he’s been friendzoned by someone?
However, I’m on xalener side in this. He seems to have the same interpretation of the word as I.
well Bur & Winged had a valid point there, but I see a lotta of different opinions on this subject, and frankly most of them are convincing despite the fact they’re different
I always had the impression that “friendzoning” was a conscious decision to reject someone’s advances but then keep them as a friend for the sole purpose of having a pushover friend who you know is crazy about you to do stuff for you, specifically because you know they will do anything for you without needing to receive anything in return. In which case it’s not just unrequited love or mutually agreeing to be platonic, it’s about manipulating someone for personal profit. I think this is at least the implied outcome of being “friendzoned”, otherwise, if it was just someone not being interested in someone else, then there wouldn’t be a need for the word, or the word wouldn’t have such a negative connotation. I mean, no one’s stupid enough to make up a word to soften their rejection, right? …wait, don’t answer that
toying with other’s emotions and using them to your advantage is just one of the meanest thing a person “girls in this situation” can do, but I believe Karma will come later
I’m more or less with Xalenar on this one. “Friend zone” I think as generally as possible can be defined as a girl you like letting you know she doesn’t think of you romantically but rather as a friend (and yeah, it could easily go the other way too). This can be all kinds of situations, and it may or may not be used as an attempt to shift blame to the girl. Regardless, it exists, it just may be used as a bad excuse. Or maybe the girl really is a bitch in which case why the fuck is the guy attracted to her?
I would say I’ve been friend zoned a number of times. Not in that I think the girls were at fault, but in the simple meaning that I’ve expressed my interest in a girl and she’s told me she wants to be friends. It happens. And for all kinds of reasons. In most cases, I stayed friends with the girl and sooner or later, almost always sooner, lost romantic interest in her. And without being some desperate pushover, simply a friend. But that’s just me, it varies from person to person.
It does exist.
For fuck’s sake. When Garth nails it you know something’s up.
Yeah, I mean, as much as it’s against protocol and all… +1 Garth.
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well that puts the whole thing to bed. The friendzone is the friend zone.
The friendzone definitely exists. It just isn’t a place girls put guys; it’s a place guys put themselves.