“friendzone” is such a load of crap
As in ‘Friendzone doesn’t exist’ or ‘Hate to be there’?
as in doesn’t exist
just because someone doesn’t have romantic feelings for you doesn’t mean you’re “friendzoned”
I’m pretty fucking sure it does exist and you’re just in denial.
My longest running relationships have been with girls I was close friends with. The friend zone is fake, it doesn’t exist. It’s a term that guys made up for when they are rejected so they can somehow move the blame to the girl. What it really means is that the girl has no interest in a relationship with you or does not want to fuck you.
Either way, she didn’t place you in some friend zone. She simply found a trait of yours undesireable. Some guys can’t get their arrogant minds around this so they place the blame on the girl. Just because a girl doesn’t want to fuck you doesn’t mean you’re friend zones…it simply means she doesn’t want to fuck you.
deniaaaaal
Can’t be in denial over something I’ve never experienced 
I thought that was the definition of friendzone.
No, that’s the definition of “preference”.
Welcome to the English language, we have synonyms.
Isn’t “friendzone” more used for situations where a girl loves hanging out with nice dudes and dating guys that treat her like crap, whereas “preference” is more used for girls who like hanging out with nice dudes but also goes out with other dudes that don’t treat her like crap?
This is disproved by the fact that everyone here agrees the guy up top was actually friendzoned…nobody here knows how the girl dates, and yet everyone has automatically agreed that the guy is in fact friendzoned, simply because the girl values his friendship but does not want a relationship.
And so what if a girl has sweet friends but dates douchebags. Preference. Maybe she likes being told what to do. Maybe she enjoys having a macho boyfriend. Maybe being a dick is a valued trait she’s looking for. Thing is, you can’t place blame on a girl because she doesn’t want your dick. You can say you’ve been friendzoned until you’re blue in the face, and all of your friends will pat you on the back and agree and offer condolences because they don’t want to admit the friendzone doesn’t exist. But it doesn’t; the girl doesn’t want to fuck you but she values your friendship. But it makes it easier to believe she has heartlessly placed you in some pit of despair…it makes it easier to pretend you are flawless and that it is no fault of yours.
^ that doesn’t prove or disprove the existence of anything, that’s just an explanation of one of the many circumstances that the friendzone is named for.
That’s what the fucking definition is you stupid shit head. That’s like saying “just because your brain functions have been shut down for quite some time and your blood has not flowed for minutes to an hour doesn’t mean you’re dead.”
No you see, your argument was that “friendzoned” isn’t a thing, when it clearly is. The argument isn’t about why, what or how stupid it is, the argument is about whether or not it is a thing. The term “friendzoned” is commonly used to describe someone who is liked by a girl but not in “that way”. It doesn’t matter how butthurt the user of the term is, it’s still a thing.
Not exactly about the friend zone perse, but this article is an interesting perspective on those of us who go overboard trying to be nice thinking it’ll get us somewhere. Maybe the friendzone is part of this? I may not necessarily agree with everything in the article, but it raises a few good points.
Fuck yes, someone articulating how I feel about all my forever alone friends bitching about how terrible women are and what nice guys they are. My theory although I like this one on why nice guys fail at relationships is because nice guys are boring. If your defining trait is being nice you need to get a hobby or some shit. Though to be honest this whole thing could be roped into their statement as nice guys are too insecure to show themselves and what they really are beyond nice guys.
Now I’m probably the last person to actually know anything about this stuff, but what I don’t get about the whole “friendzone” term is that it seems to imply that whenever a (heterosexual) male and female are friends, it’s always a matter of the male wanting to pursue a sexual/romantic relationship with the female, while the female does not wish for such a thing to transpire and is thus the one to decide.
Can’t a man and a woman simply be friends without any such feelings one way or the other?
I don’t know, maybe I’m just misinterpreting the whole thing, but I just thought I’d share my view on it.
Also, yes, I am aware that generally more implications and definitions are incorporated when people speak of the occurrence, but I only brought this part of it up because it confuses me the most, even if it isn’t the most relevant at the moment.
In any case, you people and your relationships are funny.
That’s my entire point. Using the term friendzone makes it sound like it’s a decision or special circumstance, at least to me, while it’s actually just about unreciprocated feelings.
In any case, it’s just whining over rejection.
To me, “friendzone” is more about the awkward feeling of having your romantic feelings all exposed to your loved one but still trying to act the same as before with that person.
QFT