No, not everyone, don’t be silly. But how do you know that someone wasn’t the cause of his or her problems? How do you know that you’re not helping someone who lost everything through gambling or alcohol or drugs or just plain idiocy?
How will Sassyrobot know that I’m that inconsiderate bastard that posted on this forum 10 years ago and that I lost all my money and possessions because I threw it all away on cheap beer and hookers?
And if she finds out later that I was “that guy”, wouldn’t she feel bad that she helped me?
Ehm, yes? My grandfather passed away after a long struggle (see Christian thread) I was sad, I had lost not only a grandfather, but a dear friend. I cried and I wasn’t happy. Yet I still appeared at work the days before and after the funeral. I didn’t sob there, nobody knew my grandfather had passed away until I turned in the papers for the day’s leave for the funeral. I still miss him now, but I’m not letting my life go to waste because of it.