I just saw a segment on the news where 7 teenagers were taping their bullying of a 13 year old for 20 minutes. Dispite his cries for help, no one stepped up. Not even the woman that walked around the mob as seen in the recording.
So at what point would the police deem it ok for me to put my hands on a kid to pull him off another kid? Last I heard, if I so much as touch another kid, I can get arrested. My own child was a daily victim of bullying until I followed him home one time till they started in on him again, and I cussed out the mob.
Fair? Just? Do it anyway? Call cops while watching? Do nothing?
Who of you HAVE been in a situation where you saw the bullying and knew it was wrong? What did you do? Were YOU a victim?
I’ve never really been bullied nor have I bullied anyone. I generally just secluded myself from the bigger clusters of kids and stuck to the friends I had. I also avoided youth organizations (like boyscouts or soccer teams, etc), so the chances of me being exposed to bullies were slim.
Sure, there may be the times I was on the bus and random kids I had never seen before were throwing stuff around, hitting me at times, but that didn’t happen often and if it did, I just ignored it.
And to answer your first question: it depends on severity. Some kid getting pushed around or thrown in the garbage is something I would ignore. Some kid getting brutaly beat up or being threatened by kids with weapons, I’d pop in. Though that would depend on my mood as well.
lol I remember when I was young some older kids pissed on my skateboard. Feels bad man.
No but seriously, I think bullying is an important part of growing up. I do agree however that it sometimes goes too far (like kids being beaten by multiple people while being filmed and put on Youtube).
Also, intervening will just delay the bullying, and in a lot of cases the bullies will double the bullying next time they see the victim. Live and let live, I say.
Like Jeannot here said, it’s part of growing up for a lot of kids, it’ll slowly fade away the older people get.
My youngest son was being bullied on a few occasions. Although it didn’t turn out so drastic as they were 6 at the time, the other kid’s parents were mad at me at first because I had to physically seperate them. I told that child’s father that I understood how he felt, but I knew he would do the same thing to protect his child as I did. We don’t talk anymore, but it doesn’t concern me. What does concern me is my family’s safety over popular sensibilities. I believe I would choose to protect my family regardeless of the consequences.
I wasn’t really bullied per se, though I was secluded and ostracized by most people as that “strange kid” for most of my schooling career. I was physically injured by a couple of kids though, but they were mostly older than me.
It was mostly my fault, though. I was quite the asshole back then, as I actually enjoyed it when people got annoyed with me or yelled at me to leave them alone when I was in elementary (I guess for attention’s sake). I suppose my assholeness stuck for the most part well into high school, even though I wasn’t really making an effort to troll anyone anymore.
In the college I work, one of our student was mugged by a mob just at the other side of the fence. We all knew who it was but we couldn’t do anything since its outside the school. The kid had to go to the hospital but the bullies continued to go to class like nothing happened.
Once, when walking my dog, I saw some kids threatening each other on the street. Nothing serious. I wanted to do something, but I confess I was scared. I regret I didn’t do anything.
I would rather say that it is bullying is common, not normal. Paul Graham’s Essay “Why Nerds are Unpopular” explains very well this issue, in my opinion. Bottom line is, if kids were given something to do at school (like studying), they wouldn’t bother the weaker kids so much.
In other words, just close your eyes and let the world fuck itself? No offense, but I personally feel very bad with this kind of thought.
It depends, I wouldn’t say it simply “fades away”.
Suppose some respectful adult used to bully other kids and he grew up, but he thinks like you, that “bullying is natural” . He most probably won’t bother to reprehend his kid for bullying other kids, right? So, the problem is cultural and, therefore, it is hereditary. It will stay there while no one cares to do anything about it.
I think often kids will grow up thinking that bullying is normal and become bad human being because of that. After all, violence is a stronger version of bullying: it contains the same lack of empathy. The same could be said about politicians and businessmen that do anything to gain power and status. Instead of making other kids’ life miserable, bullier should be learning something. Not to say that those kids will become bad people, but, hey, learning violence instead of useful knowledge and skills? I fear for their future.
Also, the problem don’t just “fade away” for the victims. I am completely sure about that. I know it didn’t just fade away in my case, and that because I managed to get over it fairly well. I know other guys that did not. Many other.
Well, if, in the end, people grow up and learn to do better, it means they should teach their kids to do better as well.
Also, what Bolteh said. Yes, you may step in now however the bullies may just bully the kid more the next time they see them to “get back at them” for your intervention.
Theres no straight answer, it all depends on age, what the bullies are like (will they stop? or will your intervention make it worse?), WHY they’re bullying them and many other factors I can’t think of right now :fffuuu: Seriously, I had like 5 a second ago. If its bad enough, then police. Although I’d always say the bullies PARENTS should be the first port of call.
This was me in elementary school. I was never very physically aggressive, though, nor was I ever beat up. Kids beating each other up never really happened where I went to school. Also, I wasn’t an asshole; I just acted really weird.
It was a regular old standard-issue American male until my libido kicked in. That’s when shit got real cinematic. I avoided severe bullying by utilizing my outrageous stature and trademark visage.
i bullied the fuck out of bitches who didnt shower in high school cause it was funny
like honestly if you dont want to shower youre disgusting and if you cant shower dont you like have friends or a sink or s/t
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