Well, you can’t do much until two weeks or maybe just leave a week before asking him again. The thing is not to sound too desperate or it will definitively steer him away (unless he’s in this kind of girl).
And I agree with Sassy’s overview.
But do you really want to talk to him again?
If you do it will now only be as friends? Can you handle this?
The transition isn’t always a good one. He may have been a great boyfriend, but that doesn’t always translate to being a great friend. In fact, all my ex’s have been shit friends and I don’t really speak to any of them.
I only know a handful of people who are still friends with their ex’s. It’s a rare thing.
the hardest part is the shitty two weeks thing. i would wake up just to call him and hear his voice and maybe come pick him up that day. whenever i made him laugh nothing in my life was so bad anymore. and now i don’t get that for fourteen whole days
and i do want to be his friend i can’t handle losing him completely
Yeah, that’s a pretty shitty way to break up with someone when you put it like that.
…Not that there’s a “good” way to break up.
My only breakup was over facebook. I didn’t do the breaking up, the other person did. She said it was because I was moving (which I was) but I got the feeling things wouldn’t have lasted anyway. What surprised me was how I barely reacted at all. Didn’t cry, didn’t do anything. Didn’t feel shit.
And that scared me the most.
What you say is true. But that doesn’t change the fact that it’s over. No matter how much it’s twisted and sugar coated, it’s over.
My gf and I broke up simply because I had to relocate countries and she couldn’t come with me. We still love each other, but at the end of the day there is no hope and it is over.
So it doesn’t matter what shitty reasons or excuses a guy gives you, if it’s done it’s done and the sooner you get used to it the sooner you can move on with your life.
I’ve done the same thing in the past (gotten hung up over a girl for ages because I thought there was hope) but it really was my problem.
I didn’t accept that it was done. Which is why I keep saying that the sooner you accept that it’s dead the better it will be for you.
I cannot stress it enough; abandon all hope. Hope is your enemy in a break up.
To quote some WH40k
This has been quite a good saying to live by.
at the same time though he made me so fucking stressed. i always worry about him and i couldn’t sleep without him here and i haven’t eaten in a week because of how much i just fucking keep worrying about him. i can feel my fucking bones and not being able to talk to him for two weeks is even worse. how do i know hes okay? how do i know he hasn’t found someone different? how can i make sure he has everything he needs?
He’s a big boy and can take care of himself. What you are feeling and thinking is a very natural thing and it’s something most people go through in a break up.
But you need to stop worrying about him as much as you are. Make sure you eat and take care of yourself first.
You need to accept the fact that he WILL find someone else. Maybe not today, maybe not next week, but at some point he will have a new girlfriend. And it’s going to burn like hell. Just be prepared for that. You’ll also find yourself comparing yourself to her, which is never a good thing to do, but it usually happens. This is why I avoid contact with ex’s, because that shit drives you crazy.
Think of it as damage control. You’re hurt and you’re going to get hurt more, so you need to try and find ways to lessen the potential hurt. You need to look after yourself now.
I’m just going to add some suggestions of things you can do to take your mind off of the situation. If anyone else can add a few things it would be cool.
- Hang out with friends as often as possible. Being alone and inactive gives you too much time to dwell on things. Thinking is BAD
- Take up something new. Maybe an evening class or a new language. Seriously, it helps. You have something with which to focus your energy and thoughts on.
- Rebound. Yeah, I know it sucks, but the fact is that your ex is going to be screwing another girl at some point. So you may as well beat him to it and screw some other guy. I know how lame it sounds, but it sucks balls to have an ex move on before you do.
You need to keep busy, that’s the important thing.
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That’s kind of a motherly reaction 
You’ll have to start to rehab yourself to be alone or find someone to fill the gap…
i can’t move on until after the two weeks, i know it’s not likely that he’s going to feel different but there’s always a chance
Just avoid relationships and be a foreveralone, prevents all the messy interactions like breakups and spending lots of money on expensive dinners.
Hey Fancy, glad to see you’re back. 
That being said, I’m not good with advice. But don’t you worry, things will get better.
Start dating his father / brother. That way you get to legitimately be around him and also mess with his brains at the same time. It will also make him jealous in a perverse kind of way. You may even get to appear on one of those trashy daytime shows, and that should be fun!
Ahaha, MaxTheLimit, you just reminded me of a story.
One of my distant family (my grandmother’s sister’s granddaughter) was dating some Kurdish guy. They were together for a while but eventually she wanted to break up with him.
His response to the breakup was to hold a knife to her throat and threaten to kill her if she left him. She still left him all the same.
So he decided to hit on the girl’s mother…and scored. The mother divorced her husband and then ran off to Turkey with her daughter’s psychotic ex-boyfriend (who was 25 years younger than her)
Very Jerry Springeresque.
So yeah…maybe OP can get revenge on her ex boyfriend by scoring with his dad.
Why not start with a brother or a cousin before going the Springer way ?
That’s just wrong IMO, going for the mother or father is just wrong. :brow:
cool the whole thing has made me physically sick
You’ll pull through!
Feel better FP. We all joke, but try to maintain perspective and keep your chin up.
Be alpha an slam someone else