Well, if it got this far, what else should he really do? Search for another apartment? He already said it’s too little to move out. She should move out if you ask me. If Danson pays the most for the apartment of course, otherwise there isn’t really a way. I do feel sorry for him too.
Moving back home with mom and dad would be better than having to be reminded of a failed relationship every day.
My hubby was living at home at 24 when we met. True love can happen if your at home, but not if you are with an ex.
I’m just sayin…
30 is different then 24. If you’re 30 and you live with your parents it isn’t exactly the best first impression most of the time these days…
Which is why I hide that fact for as long as I can when trying to impress a woman (34 and still at home)…
whu? THEE… GTFO!
At least tell me you pay rent.
EDIT: oh wait… or are your parents so old that you are simiply waiting for the day they kick the can and you are better able to assimilate the house? :chuckle:
Nope. I just don’t make enough money to live on my own (even if I hadn’t bought the Camaro), and I can’t mentally afford a roommate.
Luckily for me I have a girlfriend already, and I make enough money to sustain her and the apartment. Cheap apartments and being bar buddies with the owner ftw.
Geez guys (and Catz), thanks for the emotional support! I had never expected so much compassion from BM forumites (guess I was wrong, so: sorry for that).
It’s practically HER apartment I am living in, where I moved in when I could no longer afford a flat in Hannover city. So telling her to gtfo is not exactly an option. Currently, we are both dependant on support money from the “Work Agency” and, since we are living together, get a lower share each than if we would live in separate apartments. If I would leave her, both our shares of support money would have to be recalculated, but chances are that she couldn’t afford to keep the flat and would have to move back to her family, whilst I could maybe find a flat that I could share with some students (preferrably, female ones, of course).
I just cannot bring myself to leave her in this miserable situation she would find herself in. Having to move back to her family - where all her childhood traumata originated? That would not only be egoistic. That would be EVIL. I can’t do that.
Hey, some people HAVE to have it worse than most others. Why not me? Better than some other unlucky guy, I guess. That’s what you get for being nice and decent in this world. I have made my choice a long time ago, and I chose the rocky path instead of the smooth road. Stupid choice, maybe. But I cannot go back. I dare not to.
Thanks for feeling with me, anyway. Much appreciated, folks. Very much so.
The cheapest apartments around here a few years ago were $1000 a month, if you were lucky enough to snag them up before anyone else got to it. I only clear about $600 a month after all other necessities (taxes, food, car insurance, martial arts and gym fees).
Yeah I already said IF you were the one paying the most. I would borrow you some money if it weren’t for the fact I have an own apartment and I barely get enough money to sustain me and my girl. Security guards just don’t get enough money for that 
. Not to mention I have to babysit my little brother every week and I basicly have to buy him food (the lil’ cunt only eats fries and junkfood) and toys, just to make him STFU.
DansonDelta40: I have to say that I am really impressed with your willingness to hang in there in order to save her the humiliation of having to go back to a bad situation. :wipes a tear and does a standing slow clap:
I will offer only one word of caution though…
While we all know women are created of soft warm fuzzies on a warm summer night and have a tendency to show compassion where none can be found, there are other times a woman will surprise you with the coldest shoulder to be found on this side of the sun while leaving you with nothing but a whimper and an empty wallet.
Please be smart and protect yourself with a plan b. You will never know when you will need it.
Thee: Surely there is a compatible roommate to be had to share a 2 bedroom? Unless you are an ax murderer that likes to bring victims home as dinner, anyone could make a go of a common space. I suppose it could be difficult to FIND that perfect scenario and you would have to go through a lot of BS tho eh?
Two of my biggest mistakes:
- Not pulling over and getting some sleep when driving home in the early morning after somewhat sobering up after a party. I hit a telephone pole at 40+ mph when I fell asleep at the wheel. Since I happened to have had alcohol in my system, I got a DUI on top of spending a day and a half in the hospital. I was a heavy drinker back then, so a BAC of 0.09 was nothing for me at the time, but still above the legal limit… so they had to charge me.
- Going into business with my supposed best friend even though I knew he was a shyster. Hey, a guy wouldn’t screw his best friend over, right? Wrong. This was years ago and I still owe over 20k to various governmental departments that the bankruptcy didn’t include.
The eventual failure of the business played a part in my current divorce. She was adamantly against it (because she knew what kind of person “Mr. Shyster” was, too), yet I thought I could handle it and did it anyway. I should have listened to her… not to say we still wouldn’t have eventually grown apart anyway, but at least there would have been a lot less stress and fighting over it.
aw man. aw man that does suck. Did you beat him up at least?
=’(
This thread…It gives me tears of all the misfortune.
I agree with Fohlin here, this makes me sad D:
Thread not intended to be depressing: Go on at your own risk.
D: :fffuuu:
I pay R$670 (~ $360) in my apartment, including water and external cleaning. Of course it is small (it’s a kitnet), but I only pay that much because it is a safe apartment (not so) near the second best university in Brazil (and best in Math ^_^). With $1000 ~ R$1860 a month (which is more than the scholarship I receive) I could probably rent an apartment for three in Rio 
Is that really that bad there? [*] It seems so normal to me people with more than 20 or even 30 years old living with their parents. You just move away when you get married, or if you need to study or work away from home, and, even then, you might want to spend weekends (or every other weekend) and vacations with your family. Well, that is how it is here in Brazil. Except for the people who don’t love their parents.
I know what you mean. Sometimes it sucks hard to be the nice guy
EDIT
[*] Nevermind, sorry. Just found your other post, where you say she was molested when she was a child.
Changed, may have been a bad idea.
I accidentally wore two different socks today.
I do it almost everyday,