Let's talk about sexual orientation.

#1

Ok, so, as we all should (hopefully) know, sexual orientation is a natural impulse. You don’t choose to be straight or homosexual, you’re born that way.

But what if it wasn’t that way? What if humans weren’t born with a natural sexual attraction to either gender and whoever we ended up sharing a life with was a choice driven out of mutual friendship and understanding rather than sexual impulses or reproduction?

Now, given your overall experience so far with people of both genders and putting aside sexual attraction and orientation, and the need to procreate, who do you think is the most interesting gender and which would you choose for your life partner?

I think women are far more interesting than men. Men tend to be more predictable and boring than women in the long run, and while I can’t say I have had the most interesting social life in the world, I’ve had far more fun interacting and talking to women than I have with men.

What’s your pick?

edit: I feel like this thread’s title might be a little misleading but I can’t think of anything better. If some mod has a better title for it, feel free to change it.

#2

Honestly, I’m pretty much split between the two genders. I might lean more towards women on any given day, but it’s hard to say at this point.

#3

I’m all with Maxey although not all Men are that bad… For example I would pick a best male friend (someone who could literally be my brother) any day over a chick I only like because of what I would call “upper attributes” (not only speaking of physical ones here, also a nice mindset, someone you can talk to, who shares your interests as well, etc., just to clarify) but have no deeper mutual understanding to share with…

#4

Even taking personal preference out of the equation I’d have to say the female form is more aesthetically pleasing than the male form. Personality wise…ehhh…people are all over the damned map.

#5

I don’t think any kind of personality is specific to any one gender.

As for female form vs male form, I’d have to say that each has different aspects that I like or dislike. It’s hard to say if either is preferable.

#6

In terms of companionship I’d just go with people I think are interesting which can be either male or female (but in my field of work and interest, that would probably be female).

#7

That’s an interesting question. I find that my preference for friendship and companionship isn’t based on gender.

#8

I’m sexually attracted to women.
I do like hanging with my guy friends, but since I’m not the least bit interested in sports and such, it’s sometimes hard to find common ground.

Which is probably one of the reasons I like hanging out with and being friends with women. Probably more so as long as they’re not super-over-the-top-girly-girls. Not to say I prefer butch/lesbians as friends (they can be pretty fun too), I just prefer women that aren’t afraid to get a little dirty once in a while.

#9

I struggle keeping female friends. I tend to get intoxicated from time to time ( shocking I know ), and when I do I tend to end up having sex with my female friends. After that things get weird and we aren’t friends any more.

I’ve only got one female friend who is JUST a friend. That’s only because we essentially grew up together when her mother took me in. So she is more like a sister than a friend.

#10

I have yet to meet anybody with whom I’d actually want to spend prolonged periods of time with, male or female.
Don’t get me wrong, there are people that I like to hang out with, but they each have some qualities/opinions/beliefs that just annoy the fuck out of me. There’s no way I’d agree to put with it for the rest of my life.

Percentage wise I’ve definitely met more males than females that I can tolerate, but I’m not about to make any kinds of conclusions from such a laughably small test group. :stuck_out_tongue:
I should really try to meet some new people, but every time I do, I just feel I’m wasting my looking for waldo in a centerfold caricature of everything that is wrong with the modern society.

This doesn’t really answer the question though. Meh.

#11

It’s better to look at what people are, rather than what they are not. I mean, it’s more constructive to view individuals for the positive qualities that they have, rather than view them from the perspective of their negative qualities. People are too complicated to be judged by their faults, and since we all have them, none of us would be acceptable to each other if we viewed each other like this.

#12

I can’t say I see much point in pretending I don’t see things that are clearly there, in the hopes of getting used to them to the point where their existence blends with the background noise.
There’ll probably be a day when the thing that shall not be named will come and throw all my naive idealist delusions out of the window, but until that day comes, I’ll just stick to being the cinical jerk that I am.

#13

If I didn’t understand exactly what you mean, I wouldn’t have commented. Cynicism is not a balanced or constructive perspective. It places value on the negative, while ignoring the positive. I certainly would never advise to ignore the negative or advocate that the world is rainbows and unicorns or that humans aren’t inherently flawed and mostly act in self-interest, but I would say that to hold the world of humans to a fairy-tale standard conceived in the naivete of childhood denies the true nature of that world in deference to a resentment that the world is not the ideal envisioned as a child or that it is not that ideal that we may see as possible.

Surrendering to cynicism is being absorbed into the negativity, and we become that which we despise, and the subsequent self-loathing destroys us. Whereas, the struggle to reject cynicism can at least give us a more balanced perspective which allows us to recognize the avenues to contribute constructively, in whatever way, great or small, to moving the world toward what ideal that we may envision. Cynicism says that resistance is futile, but a basic understanding of history tells us that this is a lie, and that the human world has progressed and continues to do so. This is the basic struggle of humanity and human civilization, and in this struggle, one can surrender to cynicism, which is the easiest and most natural thing to do for anyone with that kind of honest perception, or one can struggle toward the ideal. The questions of human integrity or corruption, of human value or worth, of guilt or innocence, of struggle or surrender, are only answered by one individual. It’s an individual choice, but you must know that the answer to the question of humanity is also a question and answer to and of one’s self, and there can not be two answers: one for the individual and another for the whole. In other words, an individual’s indictment of humanity is an indictment of one’s self. Cynicism isn’t neutral or objective, it’s self-loathing. We construct the larger human world as a reflection of our selves.

#14

^ya know everytime i read a post from you it feels as if god has become human and wants to share his thoughts and advice with us unbelievers… sounds like ass kissin’, I know, but simply by reading your posts I can tell that I would enjoy the shit outta a face-to-face conversation with you and that I think similar about most of the things you expound.

#15

I don’t buy that. We hold ourselves to a different scale than we hold others.

#16

@yrr - you obviously haven’t read all my posts - they’re usually pretty inane. I think in this case, it’s more a matter that I have also struggled with cynicism, which I think is more common than may be assumed, so I think others probably sympathize with that.

Also - yeah, god-like might be a bit over-the-top there, but it’s cool that someone liked the comment - that’s certainly much better than getting flamed, so that’s nice. Thanks.

@Jethro - some people do that, I don’t know what percentage, but is doing that accurate or honest?

#17

@ Zen:
All that you say makes perfect if a bit black-and-white sense and I’m starting to think I’ve gone overboard with the hyperbolic expressions in my previous posts. It’s not like I just waste away my days embracing the inevitable degradation of the society. I also see the good things and have every intention of pursuing the things that bring me joy and some form of fulfillment, although I’ll admit I can find no motivation in dabbling in the fields I find most corrupted, for the very reason you mentioned.

@jethro
Yes, but that inconsistence is extremely easy to spot and must be forcefully eradicated when making any kinds of judgements and conclusions.

Anyhow, it’s late, and I’m off to bed. Apologies for spamming up the thread with my ramblings, I’m usually not prone to such things. Over and out.

#18

Bitches be crazy & dudes are assholes.

Generally I get along better with females, but otherwise I feel like johnyo:

Still looking…

#19

I’m not even a boy nor girl! (look at my hometown)

#20

You’re in two different places at once?

And they’re on mars?

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