Sounds like a very solid double-pwn - - that’s the kind of confident woman you want to make your bride!
Deutscher Scharfschütze You are not an asshole as long as you do not use their feelings against them to get what you do not deserve. If someone says they love you, it is not a licence to jump in the sack with them.
Xilarating She didnt allow you time for a comeback but be happy she honored you enough by sharing something as uncommon as that.
Nods in agreement - with a smile)
I also agree with that, some girls (the quiet ones) usually don’t like to just get the first guy they see, so I think hanging out with the girl you like is a really good advice.
Ah and I also like how we quickly forgot about reproductive organs…o wait :zip:
In case anyone is wondering if the quiet ones are worth it.
Yes.
They are.
FREAKS i tell ya. FREAKS!
i’m a quiet one
say, when does losing someone get any easier? 
When does losing someone get easier? I so sowwy honey. I don’t think it gets easier. You just learn to live with the small hole than never heals.
Perhaps plant a new flower to cover up the hole?
dammet wrong thread
wut?
I completely disagree with Catz here. More often than not, quiet girls are nice creatures 
oh yes dear. The quiet ones are very nice indeed.
I think I was addressing the fact that quiet girls do tend to have sides to them that folks would otherwise assume is not there.
Burbinator.
We experience emotions to a large degree based on our thinking.
A lot of the time, if we change our perception/what the event/person means to us/to life/ to the moment… a lot of times, we can get a gain.
I am very sad having been through a divorce - True… but I would not change the friendship I enjoy with my ex now, for anything. It took time, but seeing things from a different perspective, helps.
Beware the “endless loop” thinking - “Why did this happen”… "What if I wouldn’t have… " Those are all thing that there is no saticfactory conclusions to. (As much as we all get caught up in it from time to time)
Instead try “If I were interested in finding a partner… to get the kind of partner I want, what would I need to change in my life to make that happen?” Or, “What are my strengths? What can I do to improve them?” What are my weeknesses? What can I do to change those?"
“What information/life tools do I need to build an amazing life?” ETC. It works. You can not change the past, only learn from it. You only have this minute you are in… that is the only minute you have - The question that is before us all… Is what are we going to do with it?
AMEN!
And that said… here is another challenge:
Assuming your “perfect mate” is out there waiting for you…
What are you doing right now, today, to prepare you to be the person she/he needs?
Thus, stop looking behind you and wondering what if. Start looking ahead and wonder what if I….
Well said. I like that Catz…
“Thus, stop looking behind you and wondering what if. Start looking ahead and wonder what if I…”
Easy to remember, and very functionable. Yes.
Our thinking is the key to unlock an amazing life… Amazing how many of us (I am speaking to me at this point more so than anyone else) seem to forget where that key is.
That’s some great advice, thanks
She was the love of my life (or at least it feels that way), and our relationship never even really got anywhere. I’m extremely frustrated and I feel like I’ve missed out on a huge amount of stuff that could very well have been, because she loved me too.
It’s been more than a month and I still feel just as crappy as the first day, if not more so. It doesn’t seem like it’s ever going to end.
I probably shouldn’t be sharing that stuff on a forum, but oh well.
I’m hoping the summer will give me the will and the energy to follow up your advice
It is one day at a time. One minute at a time. To get from where you are to where you want to be, is a seeming huge distance…
One step forward from where you are, is one step forward from where you are. One step does not seem like a lot, but after a bunch of little steps, you have travelled a great distance.
Distraction is your friend. Find something to put your time and energy into - We are deletion creatures. We pretty much ignore what is not in our imediate focus.
Example.
My father and I were walking through some public gardens to go and get something to eat. (We are big eaters - food… Mmmmm food) There we were intent of our goal, then all of a sudden - we were stopped in our tracks by the most intoxicatingly beautiful, East Indian young woman, (somewhere around 20 or so) who was dressed in traditional clothing. We were actually stunned. We actually stopped walking and just stared. (That is saying something, as I normally hate that sort of drama) She was vibrant, exuded energy. Was gracious… Had amazing skin - Her eyes were hypnotizing… She was tall and not quite willowy, but slender and graceful. The life force that she had was amazing. (She may have been a Jedi… Grin) She had to of been one of thee most beautiful females I have ever seen up to, or since… and I am some what older.
What were we talking about… ?
o_o
Stalker much?
Wasn’t note-anator gay? scratches head
Guess that must have been a really impressive girl, then… 
And “she” had a d***.