Girl Advise

#1021

You make a good point SassyRobot.

I am not slurring anyone here - it more from a global perspective that I have to agree. You see the same sort of thing that Sassy has mentioned from all over the age demographic.

Part of the problem, is that most males and females seem to neglect time to get comfortable in their own skin before making the jump into being with someone.

(Damnable biology - It would seem our need to breed still outstrips (no pun intended) our social want/need to relate to each other. That is to say, that we (in a global sense) still need some work in the social department as a critter)

How can anyone be a good partner to someone else, if they are constantly trying to define who they are, through their partner? Obviously, we all do this to a greater or lesser degree: Regardless, it makes sense that if you are good on your own, you will bring more security and stability into a relationship - That of course is not carved in stone, but I think there are greater odds of happiness.

#1022

I was in one relationship for the shortest time, after it was over I thought, “you know, this is kinda stupid. Why try to make my self perfect for someone I won’t be with for the rest of my life.”

I’ve been single ever since, not because I can’t get a date, but because I find relationships need to be found during after schooling when I am trying to settle down. Not to say I don’t get lonely, I do, but I tell myself that one day I won’t need to worry about my past or present life, but I should anticipate for the future where that perfect someone will be.

#1023

For me, that time tends to involve going home, which isn’t really socially conducive. I don’t really care all that much, the more I lead a solitary lifestyle, the more I tend to enjoy it.

This is called being desperate. It’ll make you less attractive, except to other nutso desperate folk.

#1024

Raminator… is a play-do boy?
What what?

#1025

I have a friend that has 3 children all from different men and even though this last breakup was intense, she seems to be on the prowl again. Despite the fact I told her that perhaps she should take a breather.

#1026

Or stop breathing, in her case.

#1027

I agree with Sassy here. A relationship is supposed to be a part of your life, not your entire life, not even the most important part of your life. There is nothing wrong about having fun, but that is what it is meant to be: fun. You have to be well defined as a person before involving yourself in a relationship instead of expecting the relationship to define you.

Many people focus their entire lives in dating or relationships, no goals, no desires, nothing to learn or pursuit. That is sad.

#1028

Not to mention frustrating. I have/had a friend like that, but I’ve basically stopped talking to her because it’s really annoying to talk to somebody who literally avoids any sort of unnecessary effort or change in attitude or form of improvement.

#1029

Oh, no, not at all. Desperate would be taking the first offer for a date you get. Desperate would be seeking. Desperate would be setting your Facebook status to “Single”, filling out your “Interested in” sexes, and saying you’re looking for “Dating”.

Some people, as normal as you or me (maybe not as you), simply list none of that on their facebook profile. They feel no desire for lone happiness, and they feel it without having a vibe of desperation. [COLOR=‘Black’]They prefer patience and discretion where it can be applied.

#1030

No, that’s just being desperate for constant attention, and it’s pretty unhealthy. Half those examples you listed are only symptoms of being desperate (the other half are things pretty much everybody does normally).

And yes, you have a vibe of desperation. Normal, healthy people find out how to be happy alone. True story.

#1031

Nah, I’m a little more tao than I actually let on.

[COLOR=‘Silver’]edit: it has dawned on me that my expression is unorthodox. I’m using tao as a synonym for adhering to [url=‘https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wu_wei’]wu wei[/url].

#1032

A couple of internet wisdoms contributing to the very topic of this thread:

#1033

Oh come on, the only one of those that’s true is the last one, and that’s not even related to women.

#1034

They’re all correct tbh… Apart from maybe the Mario one, mainly because it’s a weird one that doesn’t really make that much sense.

The last one is hilarious and quite amusing as well!

#1035

Well, I guess I’m moving on in my own way. Got a date set for Friday with the girl who was chasing my ex while we were dating. She got mad at my ex for how the breakup went, they hate each other now, we got close, she’s cute…it’s all good. She said “Well, maybe you could make her jealous…” so I say “let’s just go on a date already”

Idk how it’ll go. Apparently she’s a psycho, though everyone I’ve heard that from are famous for jilted views of the world. Even if it doesn’t work out with her, it’ll still irk the fuck outta my ex. Win win.

#1036

The Mario one is especially true. Nothing will get you out of the friendzone into a relationship faster than a fancy car and a big load of money on your account.

The third one is ESPECIALLY true on the BM forums.

And the last one is for all the lonelyfags like me who keep complaining about their shitty lifes.

#1037

Any girl that needs a car and money to start a relationship is no one I’d be interested in anyway :3

#1038

Stop lying. If she was really, really fit you’d lose sight of how much a dick she is because you’d fall head over heals with lust. Everyone’s done it, not just because of a car or money, but for some other reason.

#1039

But I’m broke and ugly, what am I to do, oh wise Paddy?

#1040

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