Tbh, I think some people still won’t be honest in some situations no matter how many times you tell them :[
Well sometimes honesty isn’t always the best thing. It’s kind of a gray area imo. There are things you should always tell the truth about, and then there are things that you should think about telling people before just saying a truth or a lie about it.
Personally I find that goodwill and understanding are more valuable than honesty in itself.
If you are generally and unconditionally open and empathetic towards anyone, people pick up on it and tend to be nicer and more honest towards you in return. At least in my experience.
It also makes you vulnerable at times, but it’s more than worth it in my opinion.
Vulnerability is not weakness.
Lying is a part of life, sometimes ethically justified, in a way that honesty is overshadowed as “most important thing”. If your one tenet is honesty, it will leave you vulnerable, and it will benefit you/everyone less than if you focused instead on something else.
I still side with “Never abuse power”. Trust is a form of power-- The Boy Who Cried Wolf contains one of the best morals to be learned. It teaches risks of lying (as opposed to benefits of truth).
I agree with Bur when he says:
In recent years I have become attracted to the word “benevolence”.
I merely found it interesting no one mentioned it early on. I wasn’t actually suggesting it.
“Always be yourself” is the worst advice I ever took. I wish I had learned to be someone else early on.
Being myself, even though it thrust plenty of hardship on me, made me who I am. I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t have the stubbornness to stand up for myself and what I believe in. So many people these days just phase through social groups like chameleons, afraid to find their own sense of identity for fear that having an identity will push people away.
Anyone who is pushed away by who you are isn’t worth your time. What you believe in can change, and reasoned debate is always great, but someone who rejects your beliefs out of hand and uses them to judge you is also not worth your time. At least, that’s my opinion.
According to Estonia, it’s programming.
Make sure to thoroughly chew your food or you’ll bloat.