Why don’t any of you do the hunting?
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how does this stuff even work
Boy and Girl meet. Boy thinks girl is pretty. Girl thinks boy is cute. Boy asks girl “wanna date?” Girl says “Yes”.
They date, fall in love, get married, have kids, get life sucked out of them from the kids, grow old together and die wondering where it went assbackwards.
Step 1 and 2;
everything else falls apart :meh:
Another reason why not to marry unless she’s pregnant. I see now if it did work out I’d still make a huge mistake.
this is bound to have come up already but do girls on average have a preference for personality/looks or both?
I’m sure many people already know the answer to this but I’m one of the younger ones on the forum ad I’ve never been in a relationship.
You do not have to be a model in order to be a chick magnet. Develop your personality and be a motivated person in control of your destiny, and chicks will dig you.
That does not mean you don’t need to shower though. Keep your world spotless and smelling scrumptious. But a word of advise… Just as a scream turns people away and a whisper pulls them in… too much cologne turns women away while a few dabs will pull them closer.
I learned that a long time ago. I’m not the prettiest and still managed to date a hawt girl for 4 years.
Luckily for me, I’m supa hawt.
I have no healthy relationship to my own body. My ex fiancé says that I look totally hot, and that she frequently spotted chicks checking me out whenever we went out together. I never noticed any girl giving me any special attention, and I find myself unattractive. I can easily number dozens of flaws on my appearance and body, but have a hard time figuring out things about me that I really like. So I guess my self confidence is as low as it can get. Which affects my impression on girls negatively. Which lowers my self confidence even more. Downward spiral, man.
I wonder what I will find at the bottom.
Maybe a stash of gold, or you being fat.
Confidence is the key to being attractive. And just generally taking care of yourself. That’s what I’ve learned over the past few years.
I was joking when I said I’m supa hot, btw, in case anyone thought I was being serious.
And I was joking with the “I’m not the prettiest”. I’m looking decent.
cheers Catz. now what I really hate is when people single out one or the other: when people say that it’s based just on looks, they’re of course being shallow and ignorant. but people who say that looks are unimportant are equally as ignorant, there’s nothing wrong with looking for a beautiful person over an ugly to be in a relationship with. that doesn’t mean like you said that everyone has to be a really hot model or something, it just means, that it’s stupid to ignore looks and go for all personality. besides someone’s physical attractiveness can tell you a lot about their lifestyle, like with a really obese person, or someone who looks and smells disgusting. it’s not just about physical appeal, it’s looking into the way they live also.
^bscly
Love = instinct.
Animals (and let’s not forget that humans are animals) look for a strong and healthy (both mental and physical) individual of the opposite gender to secure a future of their genes. So both theories (the “looks > inner” and “inner > looks”) can be applied. Those are the factors that create the decision whether to “get together” with someone or not.
And then there is the love thing that follows that decision. I for one don’t think that " true love" exists, or that it’s just a synonym for “close friendship” at best. Only reason people stay together is the carnal desire, the lack of urge to find a new mate or the fact that the partner has proven that she’s a good mate.
The “love” between 2 human beings is no different than the “love” between 2 penguins, between 2 pigeons, between 2 turtles. It’s merely instinct. An instinct that for some reason evolved into some sort of cultural feature.
Then why do some condors commit suicide when their partner dies?
I think that the instinct evolved into culture is what love is called. But it is different from instinct. Similar, but it still has a unique looking.
Then you have to break that spiral. Not easy, but possible. Think on the other side: if the girls find you attractive, why should you not? The judges of girl’s beauty are the boys, right? Therefore the judge of the boy’s handsomeness are the girls. You don’t get to tell whether you are attractive or not, so get your mind off of it.
Is your ex fiancé hot? If she is, and she liked you, then you are hot, for whatever reason. It’s as simple as that, believe it and you will be a fucking chick magnet 
Because they’re ugly and fat.